Growing up in a broken home is not easy because there are times I feel that fairy tales are just fantasy, love stories are for pocketbooks, and there is no happy ending. I don’t want a failed relationship and marriage, maybe this is the reason why I didn’t really entertain suitors because I’m scared of getting hurt and I don’t want to take a risk and fail.
But of course, part of me still believes that the right guy will come and I just have to wait for the perfect time. I promised myself that my first boyfriend will be my husband too. I will only say “yes” to a guy if I can see this guy as my future husband. God is so good to me because I’ve met my ex-boyfriend now husband before I graduated from college then the rest is already history.
We’re not a newlywed, in fact, we’re going to celebrate our 9th wedding anniversary two weeks from now. Our marriage is not perfect, we also have our share of dramas and struggles each year. But I can honestly say that our marriage is the best thing that ever happened to me because I now feel complete. It doesn’t mean that I’m incomplete before but it is good to know that I have someone beside me as I face the future.
Being a wife is not an easy role, there are times that I wish I grew up in a complete family so I have role models that I may look up to and I know how to be a good wife. I’m glad that there are more ways to be equipped like attending a seminar, observing other married couples, and reading inspirational books like “7 Things Every Wife Should Know”.
I love reading this book because it inspires me to be a fascinating wife, it reminds me of my role as a wife and it motivates me to believe that there is a happy ending if we do not give up.
This book is not only for almost weds or newlyweds because even I’m hitting my 9th year wedding anniversary, I still learned a lot from this book. My favorite part of this book is “Real Lives, Real Wives” because I know it is not a fairy tale story or romantic Hollywood movie. A real story that you can relate to and apply in your life.
Sharing with you some of my favorites in this book.
“The important thing is to discover your husband’s basic needs and ways in which you can meet them. Your meeting those needs will enhance his sense of self-worth and fulfillment”
“Trust that he will provide and protect”
“The happiest wives have a sense of purpose and passion in work and cause outside of the home”
“Honeymoon should never end! Marital intimacy is a priority! Never ever stop dating.”
Dating is one thing that we don’t have in our marriage, we stopped dating when we had our son. We don’t have Yaya or a helper at home and we can’t just leave him to anyone so wherever we go, he goes. I don’t even know the feeling of having a date. A real date that spends the time together and not on gadgets.
Anyway, I won’t enumerate the 7 things that you should know because I do recommend you to read this book especially for moms who tend to forget that they are wives too and not just mothers. Read and learn that "It is not only marrying the right partner...it is being the right partner - Wilfred Arian Peterson".
I love to read but I haven't had the opportunity to do so recently. I just couldn't find the time anymore. Anyway, this sure sounds like a good read for wives like me. I can surely benefit from other wives' perspective on marriage and family.
ReplyDeleteaw, i think i like this. i am a newly-wed myself so this will be helpful tool for me. thanks for sharing!
ReplyDeletethis is really interesting and helpful. after being in a relationship for a long time, we sometimes forget the basics and most impt things. thanks for reminding :)
ReplyDeleteI grew up in a broken family too and sometimes, I get a bit paranoid about my own marriage. I will look for this book- I need it!
ReplyDeleteThanks for the review, Michi! Yes, we can have a happy ending if we don't give up! God bless you!
ReplyDeleteInteresting book. I would love to read it. I feel that it will help me become a great wife to my future husband. :)
ReplyDeleteLooks like a great book! I might buy one for my wife to read. :) thanks for sharing this!
ReplyDeleteBeing a wife is not just pleasing our husbands physically, it's not just bearing his children, it takes a lot of work to be a good and godly wife. It is good that there are books like this to help wives be the best they are called to be.
ReplyDeleteI am also reading this book and as of the moment I find it very engaging and inspiring. makes me see better my own flaws and now I try to make it work to be a better wife :D
ReplyDeleteLikewise, I also set a reading time for myself everyday. I have lots of books but ironically I'm too lazy to read each one of them. Hopefully my new routine materializes. Anyway, I want to get a copy of this book! :)
ReplyDeleteGood that you found a good book to read. I read at leadt two books a week:)
ReplyDeleteThis is really good although I never been married the ideology of compromising really works in any kind of relationship. Thanks for sharing. -Macy Santos
ReplyDeleteThis looks like a good book to read. There are a lot of simple nuggets of wisdom to keep the fire in marriages burning! :)
ReplyDeleteI need something to read, this might be a good choice. Thank you for sharing this, very timely for Valentines too :)
ReplyDeleteI love reading this book. :)
ReplyDelete“Honeymoon should never end! Marital intimacy is a priority! Never ever stop dating.”
ReplyDeleteOkay now I'm interested. haha
What first caught my attention was the kikay cover; I though it was a chick lit! Obviously I was wrong. Based on what you wrote, I think it's a substantial book that every wife must consider reading.
ReplyDeleteI am reading this book now and it helps me to realize the essence of being a wife :-) There are some points that hits me and I have to change for our smooth and longer relationship with my hubby
ReplyDeleteThis books is very timely for Valentine's Day! Thinking if I should get a copy...
ReplyDeleteSeems like an interesting read and have to agree with the parts you shared from the book.
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